You Don’t Have To Have Sex!…despite what Cosmo will tell you

“Get Naked!” Glance at the cover of Cosmopolitan Magazine this month and this is the message you get. “The Sex Quiz You MUST Take!” “The Erotic Touch That Will Practically Melt His Boxer Briefs” Log on to their website and you can learn about “The 20 Shoes That Turn Him On,” “The 10 Hottest Texts To Send You Guy,” and “Naughty Ways To Be A Tiger In The Bedroom.” It’s not just Cosmo. Most magazines promote sex, sexy behavior or how to please your man. Characters in television shows and on reality TV are constantly having sex. Shows like ’16 & Pregnant’ have made teenage moms into celebrities. On ‘The Jersey Shore,’ “smushing” is the goal of most of the boys, and at one point, Sammi tells the camera (of her and Ronnie) “Of course we had sex, that’s what you do when you like someone!” Educating the public about sex is great, and if you decide to have sex, it is your decision and nothing to be ashamed of or feel bad about, however, sometimes as a teenager it can seem like everyone and everything around you is telling you that you are supposed to have sex. This overload of messages is confusing. It you don’t feel like you are ready to have sex, or if you want to wait, then it feels like there is something wrong with you. This post is just to remind you that if you want to wait, you can wait. YOU DON’T HAVE TO HAVE SEX. Even if your boyfriend puts pressure on you, or your friends tell you that you should,...

111 Ways To Say No To Sex

No thanks. Not tonight, how about in ten years? If you really loved me you would wait. Let’s just kiss instead. If you really loved me you would stop asking. How about we watch a movie instead. We might get caught. I don’t want to be just another one of your girls. Ummmm….nope! My parents trust me and I don’t want to break their trust. Haven’t you ever watched 16 and Pregnant? I don’t want to end up like that. I’m not ready to be a mother, so I don’t want to put myself at risk. I think we should get to know each other better first. How about we just cuddle? I have a rule that I’m not going to have sex till I graduate from high school (or graduate from college, get married, turn 18, turn 30, have been dating someone for over a month, over a year, over 5 years…pick whatever works for you!) No, and if you ask again I’m not talking to you anymore. I love you, but I just don’t feel like I am ready and I want it to be special, not forced. My mother (sister, cousin, brother, best friend, uncle, neighbor, or someone you completely made up) told me that they had sex before they were ready and it ruined their relationship and they regretted it. I don’t want to make that mistake. It just doesn’t feel like the right time. I can’t because of my religion. I don’t feel well, I think I’m getting sick. I can’t. I have my period. I don’t want to have to worry. My parents...