Abusers tend to blame their abusive behavior on “love.” When I was a victim, I remember people telling me that I was “lucky to have someone who loved me so much.” Granted, the people saying this did not know the whole entire story, but as a victim this message is confusing and damaging. Abuse is NOT Romantic. It is NOT love. It is abuse. It hurts. It destroys lives. This is why I am launching the “ABUSE IS NOT ROMANTIC!” campaign. Read what some other victims have to say. Add your own examples in the comment section, or email me (firstname.lastname@example.org) send me a message on facebook or twitter to have your examples written out like the ones below.