About ME

Welcome to my Life After Dating a Psycho.

About This Blog: This website is the product of my journey from a victim of teenage relationship violence to a survivor.  It is full of rambling thoughts, poems, stories, memories and commentary about the world around me. It includes things I have found to be helpful through my journey: information, definitions, statistics, hotlines, articles, and more. It covers topics ranging from how to see abuse as abuse and not as love; how to get your life back after breaking up, how to get through depression and PTSD, and how to love someone else again and open back up after surviving a trauma.

Although this blog is lighthearted in appearance, dating an actual psychopath is no laughing matter. I had the unfortunate pleasure of dating a psychopath when I was fifteen years old. It was my first relationship, and it F*@#ed up my entire life. Thinking back to the situation–even now as I’m sitting here, safe–I still feel the impossibility of getting away from him. I’m still not quite sure how I survived.

I thank God every day that I have my life. Through my time as a victim, I became a shell of a person: empty, isolated and alone. I thought that what I was going through was something no one had ever experienced and no one could ever understand. I was shocked to learn, after the fact, that I was ONE out of THREE teenagers that experience some type of abusive situation.

I know what it’s like to feel like you are all alone. I know how long a night can get. I know how different someone’s internal life can be from the one everyone sees on the outside. I know what it feels like to wish you could just disappear from the world. But I always know what it is like to survive. To succeed despite it all and to refuse to give up. To find a way back to life and to feel happiness again.

I created Life After Dating a Psycho to help connect victims and survivors and to let people who are struggling know that they are not alone. Things can get better, so please don’t give up.

About ME:

I am a writer. A multi-sport athlete. A graduate student! A model. A Love Is Not Abuse Coalition Leader for the state of Florida. A poet. An activist. A runner. A volunteer. A tomboy. An artist.  I become obsessed with things I am passionate about, a list that is always growing. I spend 90% of my life outside of my comfort zone. I love the color blue. Things that are bright yellow. Ladybugs. Anything to do with soccer. I make a choice every day to be happy. Of course there are the days I can’t help thinking that I will never be ok again, but I refuse to be a victim for my whole life. So, even if all I can do today is to keep on writing, hopefully it will help to break the silence of adolescent and young-adult relationship violence, one voice at a time.

Please feel free to email me directly at lifeafterdatingapsycho@gmail.com. I am not a doctor or a psychologist but I will always listen, and I would love to hear from you. :) If you are interested in using any of the images that appear on this site, please also contact me.


Peace and Love ♥

 


**If you are a victim, I want you to know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! YOU CAN GET HELP! You deserve more than abuse. You deserve an exceptional life, a happy life, a peaceful life. Things can change. The beauty of life is that nothing last forever. As bad as things can get, they can get better. Keep believing. Reach out to other people for help. Don’t give up.